和小霜霜一起去看我的姐姐😊
Went to see My Sister with Xiao Shuangshuang 😊
我大概不适合在电影院看电影，困，记不住剧情，不能回放。😅
为什么现在的电影都喜欢用方言？接地气？难受死我。
I’m probably not cut out for watching movies in a cinema — I get sleepy, can’t remember the plot, and can’t rewind. 😅
Why do today’s movies all love to use dialects? To feel down-to-earth? It drives me crazy.
我的姐姐
和妹妹一起吃午饭的时候，还讨论了一下我的姐姐，我给她说我记忆里残存的一些关于姐姐的画面。
刚上小学的时候，我大概一年级，姐姐应该是六年级。我只记得每天中午要回家里吃饭，姐姐骑自行车带着我回家，我坐在自行车后座上吹着夏天中午温柔的风，不一会就到家了，那时候路两旁的的大树还在，路上有树荫，特别爽。想想一个六年级的小孩子要带着一个一年级的小孩子，挺不容易的，哈哈。
小霜跟我说，“你应该去跟你姐姐感慨去，跟我说这没用😅”
好吧，确实没用。
其实还有几个有印象的小故事，借着这个机会记录下来吧。
小时候火腿肠 5 毛钱两个。我和姐姐每次都是买两个，先一人一个的平均分配，几乎每次都是我先吃完，然后吃姐姐没吃完的，我们两个很有默契，我快点吃，她慢点吃，给我留点。
学校门口的小卖店一般都是成对出现的，这两家小卖店往往都会被学生们很有默契的分成男生店和女生店。姐姐自然是总带着我去女生店买东西吃了，有一天中午她问我想吃什么，因为从来没去过男生店，又看见男生店货架上的面包长得挺好看的，我就说想吃那个。女生一般是不好意思去男生店的，那个年代就这样，哈哈，所以姐姐就委托男同学去帮买给我买面包。
一天中午在家里吃过午饭去上学，和姐姐还有姐姐的同学们一起走，不知道怎么聊到了钱的话题，姐姐说 “忘带钱了 ”，我一听马上就不乐意了，没带钱我吃什么！那可不行，必须回去取。坐在地上就开始哭，姐姐和姐姐的同学们各种哄我，跟我说逗我玩的，其实带钱了，还把钱拿出来给我看，我就不信，今天就必须回去取钱了，要么这学就不上了！姐姐被逼无奈，只能选择回家取钱了。关于是否真的忘带钱了这件事的事实我现在也不知道，反正我就是这么能 作 ！😪
吵架当然吵过，应该都是小时候，我印象里只剩一个画面了，应该是很小的时候，我和姐姐站在炕上，我用我的小拳拳锤姐姐胸口，哈哈，前因后果都忘记了。
和姐姐几乎没有合照，我们不爱拍照，只在空间里找到了这样一张 10 级磨皮的照片。
我不是独生子，我不知道独生子的快乐，但是我深切的知道姐姐对于我成长过程中的重要性。所以我始终都觉得一个家庭两个孩子是很有必要的。
辩证法告诉我们，一个事情总是有两面性的，也就是说，姐姐精心照顾，对于我形成今天这种性格也是有一定影响的。我没有主见，这是很大的缺点，晚上妹妹问 “去吃这个吗？”，我犹豫着。妹妹带着一些不耐烦，“去就去，不去就不去，你倒是说啊”问题是我也没有想法啊😅
我的姐姐
接下来说说电影，没看电影之前也没看什么宣传片啥的，就是妹妹想看这个，我也听说口碑还不错，就看了。一开始我还以为是 父母双亡，少年姐姐独自一人抚养弟弟 的故事呢。实际上不是这样的。
我不擅长文字，也写不好影评。就瞎写写。
首先演技我就不评论了，只要不是特别的渣，我看不出好与特别好之间的区别。我不知道这部电影想表达什么，我总结不好，我就说说我看到的几个可以讨论的话题。关于重男轻女这个问题，我觉得在我身边已经不存在了啊，我的家乡的农村我没看见谁家重男轻女的，可能这个社会问题在别的地方还依然存在吧，这我就不了解了。
关于 姐姐是否应该抚养弟弟 的问题，在电影散场后和妹妹简单聊了几句，她说真希望姐姐赶紧签了字得了，为什么一定要这样结局，一定要道德绑架姐姐呢。我觉得这不算道德的问题，这是个人情感的问题，姐姐无论是否抚养弟弟都不应该从道德的角度进行评价，姐姐和弟弟几乎没见过面，根本没有感情，姐姐有梦想，追求自己的梦想送养弟弟完全没有问题。可是奈何姐姐有情感呢，她不是相处过程中对弟弟产生了喜欢嘛，世事两难全，没得办法，既然在情感上舍不得弟弟，那就得接受不能去实现梦想的事实。姐姐这么做没有错，我们自己做不到高尚，不能不允许别人高尚。
关于 姐姐的恋爱 ，我不知道怎么去理解，我感觉现在主流社会价值观是，爱情是不值钱的，事业，梦想才是值钱的。我也不知道该怎么去评价，我总是对这种想法有抗拒，两个人就不能有一个人为了对方放弃一些东西吗？东西不可以放弃，人可以放弃。我还年轻，体会不到为什么会有这种想法，可怕的是，大多数人都认为这样是对的。就像是人们都认为房子会涨价，都拼命攒钱买房子，因为买的人多，房子就真的涨价了。同样的道理，人们都认为爱情是不值钱的，这样想的人多了，那就真的不值钱了。
我的妹妹
我没有妹妹，“妹妹”这个词在我这里是特指，是专有名词。好朋友之间也是达成了共识的。
为什么要在我的姐姐这篇文章里提妹妹？因为这是我的 4 月置顶，妹妹必须得在。
今天在书上看到一个小故事
有一对情侣被一个穷凶极恶的歹徒抓到，歹徒说他们两个人之间只能有一个人活下来，让两个人玩石头剪刀布的游戏，谁赢了，谁就能活下来。小情侣约定一起出石头。最后的结局是男生活了，女生死了。原因是男生出了剪刀，女生出了布。
那么，你怎么看？
我怎么看？说实话，在类似这种的虚构的小故事里，我总是倾向于女性是更伟大的。所以真实的情况可能是，男生为了让女生赢，选择出剪刀，女生自然是猜透了男生的心思，于是出了布，故意输掉。
与妹妹的相处是一个思考与反思的过程，具体就先不记录了。
和妹妹还没有一张合照，赶紧提上日程，争取在下月的博客中出现吧。
My Sister
While having lunch with my little sister, we also talked about my elder sister, and I told her about the fragments of memory I still have of my elder sister.
When I had just started elementary school, I was probably in first grade, and my elder sister should have been in sixth grade. I only remember having to go home for lunch every day. My elder sister rode her bike with me sitting on the rear seat, feeling the gentle noon breeze of summer, and we’d be home in no time. Back then the big trees on both sides of the road were still there, and the road was shaded — it was wonderful. Imagine a sixth-grader having to carry a first-grader around; it was no easy task, haha.
Xiao Shuang said to me, “You should go share these feelings with your elder sister; telling me is useless 😅”
Fine, it really is useless.
Actually, there are a few more little stories I still remember; let me take this opportunity to write them down.
When I was little, two ham sausages cost 50 cents. My elder sister and I would buy two every time, splitting them evenly with one for each of us first. Almost every time I finished mine first, then ate the rest of my elder sister’s. We had a silent understanding: I ate fast, she ate slowly, leaving some for me.
The little shops at the school gate usually came in pairs, and the students would silently divide them into a boys’ shop and a girls’ shop. Naturally, my elder sister always took me to the girls’ shop to buy snacks. One day at noon she asked what I wanted to eat. Since I had never been to the boys’ shop, and I saw that the bread on the boys’ shop’s shelf looked quite nice, I said I wanted that. Girls were usually too embarrassed to go into the boys’ shop — that’s just how that era was, haha — so my elder sister asked a male classmate to buy the bread for me.
One day at noon, after having lunch at home, I headed to school, walking with my elder sister and her classmates. Somehow the topic of money came up, and my elder sister said “forgot to bring money”. The moment I heard that, I was upset — if she had no money, what would I eat! No way, we had to go back to get it. I sat down on the ground and started crying. My elder sister and her classmates tried every way to comfort me, telling me they were just teasing me and that she did bring money, even showing me the money. But I wouldn’t believe it — I insisted we had to go back to get the money today, or I wouldn’t go to school at all! My elder sister had no choice but to go home and get the money. To this day I still don’t know whether she really forgot her money; anyway, that’s just how dramatic I could be! 😪
We did quarrel, of course, though probably only when we were little. Only one scene remains in my memory — it must have been when we were very young. My elder sister and I stood on the kang (heatable brick bed), and I beat her chest with my little fists, haha. I’ve forgotten everything about what led up to it and what came after.
My elder sister and I have almost no photos together — we don’t like taking pictures. I only found this one photo with level-10 skin smoothing in our online album.
I’m not an only child; I don’t know the joys of being one, but I deeply know how important my elder sister was to my growth. That’s why I’ve always felt that having two children in a family is very necessary.
Dialectics tells us that everything has two sides. That is to say, my elder sister’s careful care also had some influence on the kind of personality I have today. I have no opinions of my own — that’s a big flaw. One evening my little sister asked, “Do you want to eat this?”, and I hesitated. She said with some impatience, “Go or don’t go, just say it!” The thing is, I really had no idea either 😅
My Sister
Now about the movie. Before watching it, I hadn’t seen any trailers or anything. It was just that my little sister wanted to watch it, and I had also heard it had a good reputation, so we watched it. At first I thought it was a story about parents dying and a teenage elder sister raising her little brother alone. Actually, it’s not like that.
I’m not good with words, and I can’t write good movie reviews. I’ll just ramble a bit.
First, I won’t comment on the acting — as long as it’s not particularly bad, I can’t tell the difference between good and great. I don’t know what this movie was trying to say; I can’t summarize it. Let me just talk about a few topics I noticed that are worth discussing. Regarding the problem of favoring boys over girls: I think it no longer exists around me. In the countryside of my hometown, I’ve never seen a family that favored boys over girls. Maybe this social problem still exists elsewhere, but I wouldn’t know.
On the question of whether the elder sister should raise her little brother, I chatted a bit with my little sister after the movie. She said she wished the elder sister had just signed the papers — why did the ending have to be this way, why did it have to morally blackmail the elder sister? I don’t think this is a moral issue; it’s a matter of personal feelings. Whether the elder sister raises her little brother or not, she shouldn’t be judged from a moral standpoint. The elder sister and the little brother had barely met and had no feelings for each other at all. The elder sister had dreams; pursuing her dreams and placing her little brother for adoption was perfectly fine. But the thing is, she did have feelings — didn’t she come to love her little brother through living with him? You can’t have everything in this world; there’s no way around it. Since she couldn’t bear to part with her little brother emotionally, she had to accept the fact that she couldn’t realize her dreams. There’s nothing wrong with what the elder sister did. If we ourselves can’t be noble, we can’t forbid others from being noble.
About the elder sister’s love life, I don’t know how to understand it. I feel that the mainstream social value nowadays is that love is worthless, and career and dreams are what count. I don’t know how to evaluate this either. I’ve always resisted this way of thinking — can’t one of two people give up something for the other? Things can’t be given up, but people can. I’m still young and can’t appreciate why people think this way. What’s scary is that most people think it’s right. It’s like how everyone believes houses will go up in price and desperately saves up to buy one; because so many people buy, houses really do go up. By the same logic, when everyone believes love is worthless and enough people think that way, it really becomes worthless.
My Little Sister
I don’t have a little sister; for me, the word “little sister” is a special term, a proper noun. My good friends and I have reached a consensus on this.
Why mention my little sister in an article titled My Sister? Because this is my April pinned post, so she must be in it.
Today I read a little story in a book.
A couple was captured by a vicious gangster, who said only one of them could survive and made them play rock-paper-scissors — whoever won would live. The couple agreed to both throw rock. In the end, the boy lived and the girl died, because the boy threw scissors and the girl threw paper.
So, what do you think?
What do I think? To be honest, in made-up little stories like this, I always tend to believe the woman is the greater one. So the real situation might be: the boy chose scissors so that the girl would win, and the girl naturally saw through the boy’s intention and threw paper, deliberately losing.
Getting along with my little sister is a process of thinking and reflecting; I won’t record the details for now.
My little sister and I still don’t have a single photo together. Let’s put it on the agenda right away and try to have it appear in next month’s blog.
